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When Jenny thinks of "poverty", she recalls the time her
son had to steal food in order to feed the family. "We had
nothing for dinner, and the kids were hungry," she remembers.
For the last nine years, Jenny, along with her five children,
has been on the run. In a desperate effort to escape situations
of domestic violence, Jenny has often found herself with no
place to stay. A recent home invasion saw her and her children
put up by the Department of Housing in a hotel for two nights.
"Finding secure accommodation is the hardest thing," says
Jenny, who currently lives on the NSW Central Coast. Jenny
worries about the impacts on her children. "My 13 year-old
has grown up watching violence in the home - and she is a
mess. The kids are trying hard to be good at school, but having
to change schools so often means that they're unsettled; they
find it hard to make friends, and I know they are angry."
For Jenny, some of the experiences she has endured have made
her physically ill.
"Sometimes we do go without. I'd love to be able to buy more
fruit for the kids," says Jenny, who adds that when things
get really tight, affording two litres of milk and a loaf
of bread can be a challenge.
Though Jenny receives the single parents benefit, she doesn't
have enough money to pay for school excursions for her kids.
"I can't afford day care for the baby either," she said. "It's
really hard on the kids. My daughter wants to go out with
her friends to the movies; she wants the things the other
kids have, but I just can't afford it."
Ten years ago, Jenny was happily married, and led a stable
and fulfilling life in Sydney. Her husband supported her and
her family. But then, things took a turn for the worse. Jenny's
husband took his own life, and the family started to unravel.
Her oldest daughter, unable to cope with the death of her
father, turned to drugs, and ended up spending time in jail.
Jenny remarried and moved to the Central Coast. Before too
long, she found herself in a situation of domestic violence.
Without family around her for support, and in a bid to protect
her children, she embarked on a life on the run. So dire has
her situation become, that Jenny has organised for two of
her daughters to stay with her sister who lives in Sydney's
western suburbs until she can secure some housing nearby for
her and the kids.
Luckily for Jenny, she discovered HABITAT, a program run
by a welfare agency that helps people who are facing homelessness,
through advocacy, referral, practical and personal support.
Vickie from HABITAT provides Jenny with support with her domestic
violence situation, and is helping her work towards her goal
of being re-united with her family in secure accommodation
in Sydney.
"Once I sort that out, I will be able to look for work, which
will help the situation," she said. Jenny is also very keen
for her children to have the best education possible and would
like her youngest child who is five to attend child care.
"This would really help me, and would help her prepare for
school."
With the continued support of the welfare agency, Jenny hopes
her goals will be realised.
"I would love to be able to buy my kids a Barbie, or a pushbike
or a skateboard one day." Jenny's experience highlights that
support services which are easily accessible are essential
in helping people to avoid homelessness.
*not her real name
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